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Dealing With Problems & Avoiding Jail By Getting Support Sooner Is Often Key...

Sandra Hoffmann

Updated: Sep 15, 2023



Getting off drugs is not often simple.


Whether it be Life or Executive Coaching or Hypnotherapy, for yourself or for a loved one, the aim in coaching is to help and support an individual trying to manage their lives in healthier ways.


The whole point of hiring a coach is to get access to professional attention so that the individual can be professionally guided along one's chosen (healthiest) path.


A Coach here is there to provide support, suggestions and guidance you may need - that's the whole point, but we won't support lying and are quite vocal about it during a session.


In the area of drug habits there is often also a gauntlet of emotions denial, shame, and guilt, just to name a few and sadly people often replace the addiction for drugs with over-eating, scratching, exercising or worse. Getting help earler is obviously the best intervention.


Life and Executive Coaching and Hypnotherapy can be significantly beneficial for infinite reasons as it can help to keep a person, 'on track' and find healthiest ways to achieve results and assist with balancing work, relationships and life.


Here, there are some similarities in counselling and Coaching in that we are both attempting to assist with;

  • Time manage how to work, study and save - live better with less anxiety

  • Focus on achieving goals which at first feel out of reach - 'a reality check'

  • Manage anxieties relating to court matters and fears

  • Help deal with a significant relationship albeit – mother, father, carer, in-laws, friends

  • Dealing with loss or grief of one’s lifestyle or image

  • Work related problems or concerns - lack of work or not balancing responsibilities well

  • Sleeping problems and anxiety relating to resting

  • Eating problems, body image and weight control

  • Heart palpitations or breathing concerns

  • Other physical ailments as a result of drug taking

  • Help deal with hospitalisation or feeling alienated

  • Dealing with anger, anxiety and the emotional aspects of change


Life & Executive Coaching are similar in many ways to counselling and therapy as discussed in previous blogs also in that we help to support the individual and assist with supporting them to gain the specific tools and behaviours to attain results.


Counsellors or therapists however do not often share stories about themselves whereas a coach often does show share more about their own life experiences and how they have overcome hurdles in their own lives.


Life Coaching alone can help focus on an infinite array of areas including communication, stress and anxiety management and exercise and nutrition and is here to help with;

  • Giving a solid foundational support

  • Uncovering limiting beliefs keeping people stuck

  • Gaining self-appreciation

  • Helping to gain or re-gain confidence

  • Achieving goals faster and with more of a sense of ease

  • Establishing healthier habits

  • Supporting with eliminating unhealthy/ bad habits

  • Supporting improving relationships

  • Saving time and time management - resolving issues faster

  • Saving money and expenditure

  • Feeling more rejuvenated - proud of self and new achievements

  • Creating healthier behaviour to support their real desired results


Lately we’ve also found many people stating that they are finding coping with money or making a living very difficult and trying to ‘get ahead’ the most difficult. Others sadly say that they are not wanting to be seen as ‘wishy washy’ as they are still renting which is not uncommon.


Sometimes it's a matter of getting a different perspective on one's life's choices and definitely getting help or support sooner can save a lot of time, anguish and keep some situations more contained especially when dealing with drugs of any kind.


Sometimes the reason for the drug intake is a result of a trauma and we agree that trauma of an event can be catastrophic but also the time spent re-hashing the trauma and not getting professional help is tragic in itself. Not getting professional support sooner is often key and sadly we often see people that have wallowed in their own misery for decades and when they finally get coaching it is a great relief.


When a person is stressed and is taking drugs or has tried to avoid getting help obviously the issues can get worse as it comes to affects their;

  • Relationships relating to home life and living becoming violent or aggressive

  • Growth, change and transitioning feels non existent or not healthy

  • Addictions change – medicated and non-medicated drugs (or both)

  • Sleep or insomnia worsens

  • Energy loss deteriorates - lethargy or adrenaline

  • Money matters – loss, gain, over-spending

  • Motivation & desire feels like it is non-existent

  • Sensing heart palpitation & breathing concerns

  • Ability to manage anxiety and pain has lessoned

  • Stress & anxiety management – Exercise & Nutrition is not healthy

  • Difficulties with relationships – partners, carer, child, in-laws, long term friends

  • Time managing is hectic - study, recreation, commitments,

  • Behaviours - lying or stealing wherever they can or from friends, work or family specifically

  • Work capabilities and motivation deteriorates or they lose their job

  • Anxieties dealing with the prospects of jail time

We are also finding many executives in their late 20's who are not given the support they need at work or work come to us rather than a parent. Often they do not want to reveal to their employer that they have been prescribed medication or that they are taking recreational drugs and will come to us for help and support to work through their problems and issues.


Executive Coaching includes all of the above, and also focuses on how one’s life is being impacted or being affected by their work and also the specific skills, behaviours or attributes that the need to assist them in their executive capacity.


Executive Coaching here may involve focusing on one’s;

  • Leadership skills and abilities – influencing others in particular ways

  • Handling expenses & accounting

  • Time management – time for self

  • Understanding legalities

  • Motivation - knowing limitations, exploring boundaries

  • Giving speeches & networking

  • Communication in motivating others, especially in relationships of importance

  • Communication in conflict resolution

  • Hiring and firing capabilities

  • Decision making – time efficiencies & transitioning

  • Stress & anxiety management

  • Exercising efficiently & Nutrition

  • Addictions and ADHD

  • Managing pain & medication

  • Image & Public Relations (Social Media)

  • Accounting – raising funds, managing, delegating

  • Travel considerations

  • Time away from home management

  • Etc.


In an executive capacity, it may mean someone who is in an executive, works in upper management, corporate, is on a company board, be it a director or secretary of a company, or influences others in authority etc.


Here in both Life and Executive Coaching we focus on assisting the person to also look at a wide variety of things in their life and how they are dealing with;

  • Spending their time wisely

  • Delegating tasks

  • Working through negative emotions such as guilt or remorse

  • Stress & anxiety management – exercise & nutrition

  • Treating people, relationships & communication outcomes

  • How they are being allowed to be treated

  • Thinking about their past

  • Approaching their future

  • Scheduling fun into their life

  • Understanding their personal reputation

In sessions lately we also notice that there is a lot more information readily available and a lot of people spending a lot of time searching for information but seemingly not focusing on resolving the issues themselves costing them alot of time and money in the interim.


In both Life & Executive Coaching we have found initially that some people just want to keep justifying their situation and it then takes longer to work through the issues continuing including when the person is;

  • Focusing too much time on personal responsibilities trying to fix global problems instead of one’s own issues

  • Blaming the housing crisis making people feel helpless to find a home to buy or rent instead of contacting local, state and national government or doing something practical about it

  • Overspending on trying to look the part and maintaining an image beyond one's means

  • Having Social media addictions covered up by claiming they are information surfing

  • Maintaining mobile phone and messaging addictions during work, meals and during a session

  • Blaming climate change responsibilities and having a sense of doom and gloom causing feelings of almost inertia, panic and anger

  • Continuing to blame their parents for separating or making their childhood unbearable for them

  • Creating a lack of personal responsibility or attention seeking behaviours


Luckily, most people come to coaching wanting transform their lives in more positive ways. Although we are finding alot of parents calling us at their ‘whits end’ wanting us to coach their children and not wanting to be involved in the process.


As mentioned previously, coaches tend to share more of their history with a client, than a counsellor or therapist does and therefore more understanding or even empathy can often be shared during a session.

At RSN there are many more options these days with zoom or video conferencing, telephone calls and face to face at work or at our office which makes maintaining coaching more affordable and effective.

The best policy here is to address issues faster, at any age and is honesty regarding what has been done recently or in the past that has led a person to require needing greater support and taking ownership and accountability for one’s actions and repercussions are key.


Seldom in my career have I seen a person tell their general practitioner that they are taking a prescribed drug with a recreational drug and this can cause such chaos, ill-health, anxiety and stress in a person’s life. They will however be more inclined to tell their therapist or coach and here it opens the door to often be able to then resolve or fix the issues in a timelier and efficient manner.


Dealing with the real prospects of jail time can be debilitating and honesty in life, a coaching or a therapy session is often key, saves time and is like a breath of fresh air that allows progress to take place faster and for people lives to be healed and get back on track.






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